There are all kinds of pressure; peer pressure, parenting pressure, career pressure, beauty pressure and more. We are continually bombarded by standards that are set for us to adhere to, rise to and accept. But these standards are set by forces outside of us. They are set to keep a division between the haves and have nots, to create a chosen few, the elite, and the beyond special. It creates a series of checks and balances that most accept. But what if you are one who does not accept them as the norm, or a measure of who you are and what you do?
Who are these forces to deem that someone is more worthy than you? For anything? How do they become so powerful in our world? What right has been bestowed upon them? Why do we turn to them for guidance and approval?
We have given our power away in so many circumstances. We believe that others know better who we are and what we need to do. We give them the power to call the shots, set the bar, make our choices and form our opinions.
What if we began to lean into ourselves? What if we gave ourselves permission to trust our own truth, to listen to our own voice, to learn from our own mistakes and successes? You are the very expert you need to consult on decisions about your life. Practicing this act of listening to one's truth and authentic voice takes time, it is often not modeled to us or encouraged. But, that does not mean it is not doable or possible.
No one is more worthy than you of your power. You have the greatest insight on what is right for you. You have the best opinion on what you want. You have the wisest thoughts on what feels true. You have the deepest connection to your truth. No one else does!
Embracing this fact and applying it to your life is a power filled action. It puts you in control of your decision making, your choices, your interests, likes and dislikes without any need to rationalize or hide.
We all need people in our life to share out thoughts with, to have conversations that help us expand in our views and concepts, but in the end it is you who puts the final thought in place within your essence. It is you who creates the pattern for your life tapestry and chooses how to embellish it or trim it back.
Learning to not give our power away is a practice. It is a commitment. It takes time. But in a world where an "expert" is around every corner, to learn to rely upon our own power, strengths and wisdom is a very important skill of survival and leads to days of happiness and grace.