Have you noticed that sometimes someone will say an unkind thing to you and it just rolls off your back? And yet there are those comments that sting like no other and we have a hard time recovering from them. Have you ever wondered why? “It is not insult from another that causes you pain. It is the part of your mind that agrees with the insult. Agree only with the truth about you, and you are free.” ― Alan Cohen Hmmm, so could that be it? Could it be that somewhere within us we have bought into the lie of the insult? Somehow we have given agreement? No wonder we cannot let it go. I often tell my clients that when they see someone that they admire it is because they can identify with a characteristic of that person that is mirroring back the very same characteristic that resides inside of them. SO if you see someone and you think, “She is so generous and kind.” You admire her and can relate to her because the generosity and kindness within you resonates! Your soul recognizes the alignment.
Let’s now flip that, when someone insults you and you own it, your soul recognizes that it is a lie and the pain and sting and hurt created is your soul’s attempt to get you to see the truth and reject this burden. By not owning the negativity of the comment and seeking to replace the lie with the truth, you are able to walk away free of the burden.
When we have cared well for our soul and met its needs, it serves us well. It helps us identify what is authentic to us. It helps us filter troubling messages. It aids us in living in the present and not getting trapped in baggage of yesterday or the worries of tomorrow. Our healthy soul brings clarity to our view.
Blessings ~ Lisa
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