Not all of our relationships are healthy. We know this. For some of us, we spend a great amount of time trying to work on them and trying to fix them. And if it is a relationship with ourselves we have even more of a vested interest to work on it. Being truthful and honest with this work will hugely impact its success. Many times we need to access what is going on to begin the work. Asking the right questions is important. If we pose questions that are fear based we really will only perpetuate the illness of the relationship and remain stuck in its dysfunction. Asking fierce questions that get us to peel back layers, to dig a little deeper and to explore with honesty gives us the freedom to grow in the relationship and to become empowered.
So what do questions of fear sound like? If you worry about any of the following then you are asking questions of fear. What will people expect me to be like? What if they don’t like me? What will they think of me? What if I fail? What if I embarrass myself or look foolish?
And what are empowering questions going to sound like? How about the following: Will this move me forward on my life’s path? Am I being honest with myself and with others? Can I be generous, compassionate or loving in this? Do I feel my energy expanding or am I shutting down?
Even in just reading these questions out loud you may possibly feel the difference in which your authentic Self resonates. It is amazing the power behind our questions to self. Having the courage to ask these questions and adjust accordingly will make a huge difference in our relationships both with our self and with others.
Blessings ~ Lisa
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